I’ve had the opportunity to speak with many of the greatest business people in the world. It has been an interesting conversation over the years and has allowed me to discover me what makes them truly successful. In looking at the other side of the coin and asking them about times that they have failed, there is also a common denominator.
It simply comes back to this time and time again: A negative mindset is our worst enemy.
Now, I understand this because I’m naturally a skeptic. I am also a natural introvert. I am automatically going to think about what’s hard about it, what’s wrong, and what’s going to be difficult. I do this because I want to attack the most difficult part first (once I get going). But this is also something that holds me back from getting started in the first place.
The core concept in my 1:1 coaching is the idea of being brutally honest with ourselves. Sit down and look at how are you approaching your challenge? If you believe something is going to be hard, it’s going to be hard. If you believe that you have the ability to overcome it- even if it is hard, you’re more than likely on the right path to get to your success.
A negative mindset is the worst thing that’s going to keep you away from your goals. Getting to the place where you understand how you can drive it versus being a victim to it will determine your outcome. Guard everything against a negative mindset.
Think about that.
Many entrepreneurs like you, often forsake personal health on the journey to success. Let’s face it. Building a business is challenging and take a ton of time. However, study after study has shown that when we make time to work on our physical, mental, and emotional health, our bodies will learn to perform at a much higher level.
Now I will be the first to admit that I am not an all-organic, nuts and berries only health person. I admire those who are but know that the occasional milkshake is also not an entirely terrible thing. Yet, when making specific time for workouts, I know my body responds better and has more energy. I also end up sleeping much better on average.
When I am disciplined to journal and focus my mind every day (how and why I created this app), my creativity and problem-solving capability are significantly improved. That is why I challenge you to be brutally honest with yourself. Are you limiting your success by not taking care of your body, mind, and soul?
If you are like me, that can be an uncomfortable question. But the answer is a crucial key to operating as your best self.
Think about that.
You are an amazing human being.
You are full of life, wisdom, joy, thoughtfulness, and strength—even when you have times that may not feel like it.
Strength is often ill-defined as confidence when in actuality it has far more to do with persistence than anything else. How I know that is from my own journey, as well as that of virtually all of my one on one clients.
The more successful they are, the longer their story of persistence. These entrepreneurs simply cannot and will not give up.
But being backed into a corner, or being trapped by circumstances is something very different. The challenge is situations like this is in clearing your mind and focusing on solutions rather than the stress of the problem.
Recently, I had a coaching client that was up against the wall of a cash crisis in his business. In talking through it, he fixated on the amount that was owed rather than realizing that his customers were the source of his solution.
I encouraged him to know where his numbers are; but then, he is to look at how many customers would hire him all over again today if they needed someone? How many were moving up in business versus down? How many praise emails and phone calls had he gotten in the last 90 days.
Once we did this exercise together, we quickly realized that he did not have a cash flow issue—he had a client service issue. His team had gotten lax in servicing the clients with an over-and-above experience.
Perspective and brutal honesty reveal pure strength. You have it—you just have to know how to look for it.
Think about that.
I think the most disheartening response I hear to the question, “How are you doing?” is when someone responds with something like, “I’m here,” or “I’m just existing.”
I certainly get that we cannot be “up” all the time. But, I also know that we choose how we live our life every day.
Things do not happen to us, they happen for us.
The question is, ‘how do we respond?’
Not everything is glitter and unicorns, I get it. But in choosing to be intentional so that we drive our day rather than react to our day is key for a growing entrepreneur or leader like you.
So what do you do when you just don’t feel like growing?
Simple. First, you acknowledge that you do not feel like doing the work. Second, you do the work anyway. You show up. Finally, you go back to a place in your memory where you felt alive and in charge and ask yourself, “What was different then from now?”
You see, our emotions lie to us all the time. We may be tired or unfocused, but in reality, we are experiencing resistance – a form or procrastination where our body and mind trick us. We do not actually feel lost, we are just telling ourselves that so we can justify avoiding something that we are not quite comfortable with.
It sounds silly — and it is — but it is also real and is stealing your mojo.
You control your day. Now go take your rightful place and slay it.
Think about that.
We all like nice things. But if you take a look, nice (and expensive) things actually could cost you a whole lot more than you originally thought.
I am not opposed to taking care of ourselves with quality provisions and rewards. However, if we do so at the expense of our health or our mindset, then we could be costing ourselves far much more than thought.
Our health is paramount. Our mental state and focus are equally critical.
That is why I encourage you today to make sure you “budget” for time for your health and your mind time.
We need time to relax, meditate, pray, sit quietly, whatever your practice.
So before you drive through for that next In & Out Burger, remember, your body will be around longer than that expensive handbag, shoes, car, whatever.
Think about that.
We’ve spent several days talking about the power of perception and what it means to your journey. Today is no exception.
In fact, it’s probably the most important principle around perception.
It is important for us to pay attention how other people see us. It helps us clarify a lot about who we are and where we choose to belong.
However, it is even more important for us to focus on how we see ourselves.
If we see ourselves as successful, as powerful, as forward, and as a leader, we are far more likely to be successful than if we see ourselves as a victim, or as someone who is going to suffer hardship.
It is a life changing principle that we have to learn and then master.
Certainly, there are things in life and business that are outside of our control. However, our ability to see ourselves as our best potential self greatly gives us enormous momentum and an advantage in actually achieving our dreams.