Everyone knows me as the mindset guy. But the truth is even with a perfect mindset, if you don’t pair it with action, you won’t go anywhere. They are the Yin and Yang of success.
Mindset and Action are the first and second ingredients of any base recipe for success.
The difference between who you are and who you want to be is all wrapped up in how you think and what you do. When you come to a place of thinking about your thoughts, you are at the best starting point. But thinking is not enough; you must take action. Your first behavior is that’s what puts you on the path to your full success. However, there is a fine line between forward action and busy work. You have to think about what is needed and what is not really. Then, you take action and adjust as you go.
The secret is to just…start.
I invite you to take a few minutes today to stop, pull out your journal, and ask yourself this: The actions that you have planned for today…are those actions directly connected to where you want to be and who you want to be? Or are they “busyness”? Does your workload day-to-day come from your inbox? If so, you have to strip away substitute activity and focus only on the tasks that get you to your goals.
It sounds simple, but it takes incredible discipline.
We all have demands. My schedule is insane with multiple business interests that I keep up, that I enjoy doing, that I like building. With my private clients and the one-on-one time, we spend a lot of time talking about how to get them where they want to be. How do we do all that? It’s through proper mindset, through strategic thought, and through disciplined action. That combination is key.
Whatever excuses you may have going on, I can tell you flat out- fear typically drives most excuses I’ve run into.
Whenever I’ve held up and procrastinated, or I couldn’t quite get something over the finish line, it is always from being uncertain and afraid.
Being brutally honest with yourself is the secret to figuring out why you are not stepping forward. Once you do, by taking that first step, momentum is yours.
Barely a day goes by that I do not get asked why mindset is such an important topic for me. Most often, the questioner ‘knows’ that mindset is to be thought of, but has no clear understanding of its true impact. I cannot stress it enough. Mindset is the single most important thing you can refine and perfect in your life.
Now, how can I say such a sweeping statement like that? The answer is simple. It has been my life story. In fact, you see this post within the app, Mindset Engine, solely because I discovered the hidden power behind mastering mindset.
So how to you get started down the path to mastering mindset?
First, you simply start. Everything begins with a deeply personal internal conversation. I call it being “brutally honest” with yourself. My conversation started with a morning journaling session.
Very quickly—a matter of a couple of days—things would pop up and take me away from my newfound journaling routine. I would miss one day, then two, until suddenly I would look up and my goal was now three months passed with no progress.
So, I committed to change (mindset) by removing distractions from my morning. I stopped looking at my phone as my first activity from awake. (I used to say, ‘yeah but it is my alarm.’ What I was actually doing was checking the news, email, and Facebook as my first activity.
That single action corrected my course more than I can explain.
We have much more to cover in the coming days. For today, start your brutally honest conversation internally. It takes far more mental strength than one might think.
At first pass, this advice to “just do it” may seem overly simplistic and elementary. Yet, I have found that in most cases, the simple is usually the most effective.
Why? Forward motion and effort are powerful tools that we often leave in our tool belt, especially from a mindset standpoint.
I remember when first starting my 1:1 coaching business, I spent days and weeks thinking about it, ruminating over the concept, and applying everything you can imagine to the project. I created logos, bought URLs, created web pages, even an automated booking calendar, and elaborate library model to hold notes, videos, and the like.
There was just one problem. I was not actually DOING and any coaching.
This phenomenon is what I like to call, “substitute activity.” Ask any entrepreneur, and they will tell you that this nemesis often visits and can be particularly challenging to exterminate. So what is the best defense from getting overtaken with “substitute activity?” Just do it. Take action, start today, do what gets your dreams started.
Even the smallest step forward toward your goal for today is a massive victory. I have always found that once you just step forward, the second, third, and fourth steps each appear more quickly than the last.
Think about that.
I’ve had the opportunity to speak with many of the greatest business people in the world. It has been an interesting conversation over the years and has allowed me to discover me what makes them truly successful. In looking at the other side of the coin and asking them about times that they have failed, there is also a common denominator.
It simply comes back to this time and time again: A negative mindset is our worst enemy.
Now, I understand this because I’m naturally a skeptic. I am also a natural introvert. I am automatically going to think about what’s hard about it, what’s wrong, and what’s going to be difficult. I do this because I want to attack the most difficult part first (once I get going). But this is also something that holds me back from getting started in the first place.
The core concept in my 1:1 coaching is the idea of being brutally honest with ourselves. Sit down and look at how are you approaching your challenge? If you believe something is going to be hard, it’s going to be hard. If you believe that you have the ability to overcome it- even if it is hard, you’re more than likely on the right path to get to your success.
A negative mindset is the worst thing that’s going to keep you away from your goals. Getting to the place where you understand how you can drive it versus being a victim to it will determine your outcome. Guard everything against a negative mindset.
Think about that.
For a long time, I have known that the way you approach a situation has a significant impact on the outcome.
If you believe you can achieve something, you are exponentially more likely to achieve it.
Conversely, if you limit yourself and are afraid you will ultimately fail, you are far more likely actually to fail.
What makes the difference? The way you come at a problem has a significant impact on the outcome.
What you dwell upon is what you attract.
Our life and our thoughts are made up of the successes and challenges that we experience. And the lessons learned as a result of those experiences, create the fabric of who we are and how we succeed.
Whatever is going on in your life today, whatever challenges, whatever goals, whatever building you might be doing in your life or your business, I challenge you to pause for a moment.
Journal if you need to and think about how to reposition your mindset to succeed.
I have a very successful coach friend of mine who always says, “Until you learn to think about your thinking, you’re not ever going to get on the right path.” I honestly believe that.
I welcome you today to pause to ‘think about what are you thinking about,’ and which outcome are you dwelling upon? How can you focus your mindset to work for you so that you are in a posture of success before you ever get started?
Think about that.
I get asked all the time, “what it is that makes successful people successful?” or, “why is that when someone has a particular success that they tend to have another and another?”
The truth is that success really does happen when your dreams and your desires get bigger than your excuses.
I wanted to be in personal coaching for quite some time and wanted to create something like Mindset Engine to give away to help other people achieve a healthy, focused mindset.
For me, I had to get to the place where my desire for success became greater than my excuses. Then, and only then, did I take strong forward action and put myself out there.
Was I scared? You bet! But I quickly realized that all of us fight the challenge of fear and self-doubt.
Once you learn to make your mind work for you instead of against you, you have the ability to do virtually anything.
Grab your journal or your phone, tablet, or the journal function in this app—whatever it is that you use to take notes on and ask yourself, what is holding you back? What is keeping you from where you want to be?
Before you allow yourself to accept those things, look at each statement that you’ve written down and asked yourself why.
Why is that holding you back?
What is that you could do differently and break through to your goal?
Excuses are like a warm, comfortable blanket on a cold day. But ultimately, excuses deny us the ability to experience life and the success we want.
You have to pay attention and be brutally honest with yourself. It is super easy to get caught in a life of excuses where you miss the success and the dreams that you want. Mindset will give you a giant step forward.
Think about that.