Today’s Mindset is far easier to say and talk about than it is to walk out in real life.
Let’s face it, you and I have both been hurt before and both of us are probably still dealing with the sting of those actions.
I know I am.
But the good news is that it does not have to be that way.
No, I am not suggesting that we just simply try to forget about our past or pretend as though it did not happen…It Did.
But, the key in moving past the past is to understand WHY you were made to feel that way.
It is tough to relive a past hurt, but rather than re-live it, dig into why you were made to feel the hurt.
What emotions did it bring up?
What responses did you first have?
Are you mad at who hurt you, or are you mad at yourself because you let yourself be vulnerable?
Ooops. I probably left teach and went to meddling a bit on that last one. 😉
Understanding the WHY of past hurts and setbacks is the doorway that leads to your freedom and release.
How do I know? I lived it firsthand.
Think about that.
I think the most disheartening response I hear to the question, “How are you doing?” is when someone responds with something like, “I’m here,” or “I’m just existing.”
I certainly get that we cannot be “up” all the time. But, I also know that we choose how we live our life every day.
Things do not happen to us, they happen for us.
The question is, ‘how do we respond?’
Not everything is glitter and unicorns, I get it. But in choosing to be intentional so that we drive our day rather than react to our day is key for a growing entrepreneur or leader like you.
So what do you do when you just don’t feel like growing?
Simple. First, you acknowledge that you do not feel like doing the work. Second, you do the work anyway. You show up. Finally, you go back to a place in your memory where you felt alive and in charge and ask yourself, “What was different then from now?”
You see, our emotions lie to us all the time. We may be tired or unfocused, but in reality, we are experiencing resistance – a form or procrastination where our body and mind trick us. We do not actually feel lost, we are just telling ourselves that so we can justify avoiding something that we are not quite comfortable with.
It sounds silly — and it is — but it is also real and is stealing your mojo.
You control your day. Now go take your rightful place and slay it.
Think about that.
Almost all of us undervalue the relationships in our lives. We often take them for granted and spend too little time nurturing the important relationships around us.
As a result, we can often build walls without intending to.
The answer? Be intentional about who you are and who you interact with. Business and life are hard enough on their own. Why make it more challenging by trying to get it right by yourself?
Being intentional takes time and effort, but the return is well worth the investment.
Take time to listen.
Take time to care.
Take time to respond when others are in need.
Take time to understand what others are trying to do in their lives and businesses.
People want to feel heard, and you have a unique opportunity to do just that.
Besides, let’s face it. None of us have all the answers to all we need.
We need each other for support, ideas, encouragement, and a host of other things. So as you show up, others will show up for you and your community will grow.
Think about that.
I do not know why as entrepreneurs we constantly judge ourselves and compare ourselves to those around us.
Why do we do that? We have the most fun and enjoyable work in the world, and yet we give in to listening what others say about us.
Isn’t it time we not do that anymore?
When we give our perception of approval over to what others say about us, we are giving up our joy AND putting ourselves at risk of not knowing our true worth. When we listen to what others think about us, we lose our voice.
That is why I encourage you to guard your self-worth and your confidence. It is your greatest asset as you grow.
Let’s face it…others will criticize you for no other reason than to make themselves feel better about themselves. Many do not want you to succeed, because in doing so, you leave them behind.
I challenge you to focus on your voice and your self-worth and your confidence. In learning what those truly are, you shed the stuff that others put in your head.
Criticism from trusted advisors is helpful. Criticism from the masses is reckless and a serious distraction for you.
Listen to you.
Think about that.
The Other Side of Fear
What is holding you back from achieving what you want?
And what happens if you fail along the way?
The difference between those who achieve and those who fail is that the achiever has gotten up and tried once more.
As entrepreneurs and business leaders, we are going to fail. We will struggle at times. However, what we want is on the other side of our fear. Once we learn to have a healthy relationship with fear and persistence, we can achieve anything we decide to.
Fear is a healthy thing when directed at the proper situation and target.
On the other hand, fear can be our greatest weakness if left unfettered in our lives.
When we determine that we will reach our goal regardless of our failures and struggles, we have put fear in its proper place.
So what do you want and what are you willing to endure to see it come to reality?
To find it, you must walk past fear and continue on your way. If you stop, pause, or doubt, you place yourself in peril of being overtaken by fear.
Not where you want to be?
Get up and go again
Think About That.