No one likes failure. Also, I am discovering that many do not like learning either.
“No way!” you say? It has to be true because we forget to pay attention to life’s lessons all the time.
There really is no such thing as failure. There is success, and there is learning. Failing is just one way to determine how not to try it the next time.
The sooner we learn this perspective and we “Learn from the Turn,” the sooner we will come upon our ultimate success.
Our perspective on the other side of struggle has an immense impact on how quickly we move through our next challenge.
Of course, I am like you. I am no fan of perceived failure either. I always want to succeed. However, if you find that you are not failing often, I am convinced you are not pushing yourself far enough.
We all struggle.
The question is how do we respond when we struggle.
Think about that.
Today’s mindset is all about the idea of determination and objectivity.
Scores, assessments, and standardized tests may limit someone because they may not be a naturally gifted test taker. However, that has nothing to do with determining how someone ends up.
Determination, objectivity, and hard work is the holy trinity of success.
If you can work through your challenges and understand where you truly want to go, the world’s opinion of where you end up is just that—an opinion. I’ll take hard work and a work ethic over natural talent every single day.
Whenever I work with people in my 1:1 coaching, I’m always most interested in somebody who is hungry and ready to work hard. I tend to shy away from people who have a mindset of being a prima donna.
I think good old fashioned hustle is worth a ton these days. In a space where everything is polished for Facebook, true hard work and grit will win the day AND be authentic and obvious to everyone around.
I encourage you to find your grit and authenticity. It will not be long until the internet is fully saturated with polished, get rich in a second, characters. Your true grit and authenticity will make you stand out easily from the crowd.
Think about that.
Henry Ford is quite possibly one of the greatest minds of the modern era, not just for his manufacturing, but for his process of thought and for thinking about how to solve issues.
Henry Ford challenged common beliefs. He looked at problems and he delivered solutions—even when people thought he was crazy.
If anyone had reason to want to pause and think twice, and not take action, Henry Ford might be that person. But nevertheless, he lived his life with a mindset that said, ‘If you believe you can, you are so much further down the path to getting there than if you believe you can’t.’
Now, I will say straightforwardly that I do not believe in a simple name it, believe it, and it’ll come to pass. You have to do the hard work.
You have to out think those who may not believe in your vision. If you are focused, know what you want to do, have clarity, and you believe that you can achieve your goal, you are ninety percent home. I know this from personal experience.
Think about your next big goal. Now, I challenge you to write it down in a public way. Share it with an accountability partner or team. Add a date and time to it and start building a model that can get you to that goal.
For me, I wrote myself a check for $2,000,000 and dated it the day that I wanted to achieve that goal of paying myself that amount of money. The progress almost immediately after was staggering.
Think about that.00
I have yet to meet and entrepreneur or leader who would say that they learn more during good times than they have in dark times of struggle.
Whether in your business or in your personal life, we must get brutally honest with ourselves and deal with the turmoil and the dark topics that we like to pretend do not exist.
Oh, I see you.
We are similar — all entrepreneurs and leaders have the struggle of wanting to hide or gloss over our shadow areas.
For years, I did not know or understand the concept of Shadow Work. I just knew there were thoughts and actions in my past and present that I wanted to keep hidden.
But then I realized that by not dealing with it — not doing the shadow work — I was doing myself a HUGE injustice.
I was being a thief of my future joy!
Sound familiar? (It’s okay…you can just ask ‘for a friend’)
Shadow work is some of the most life-altering work you can do. The more we get in touch with our pains and our fears, the more free of them we become.
And when you get FREE – your life and business almost instantly hit epic momentum. It was my story for sure.
Embrace your struggles and all the things you want to hide. You will grow from facing them AND your audience will grow because you are being honest with them.
Think about that.
Our mind and our body see and experience things very differently. For many, we fall into the trap of allowing our mind to intervene long before our bodies need it to.
Recently, I had the opportunity to speak with one of the leading neuroscientists in the country about this very topic.
They shared that during exercise, for example, our minds will immediately attempt to tell our bodies that we must stop anything strenuous. And in most cases, when the mind begins this warning conversation, our bodies are really only at 20%-30% of our physical capacity of strain.
Now, why is that?
Our minds, if not properly conditions, can trick our bodies into any number of reactions.
Without a well-honed mindset, our minds can limit our physical beings, as well as our emotional beings.
Simply put, our mindset can either work for us or against us. But the good news is that mindset is not genetically wired. According to numerous neurological studies, mindset is a choice rather than a predetermined physiological state.
It is up to us to decide how we want to approach life—with a fixed mindset or a growth mindset.
Think about that.